That relationship produced a daughter who was 3 at the time that the divorce took place.
I got remarried 2 1/2 years ago and we now have a son who just turned 11 months old this week.
If you're single and dating, once you hit your mid-30s you start to notice more and more divorced dads on Tinder, Ok Cupid, and IRL.
By 40, what was once few and far between is now your main dating demographic.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still pre-college, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there are my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that I have to enforce as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids … Let’s take this from the perspective of a first date, rather than a developing relationship.
In a first date you are trying to make an impression.
Some guys milk their divorced-dad-ness in their profiles, flaunting lots of pictures of themselves with their adorable offspring, and some show no signs of being a parent, only to confess it on the first date as if it's a secret to hide.
Divorced men also know the ups and downs that come with long-term involvement.
That “best behavior” should be the model, within reason, for the relationship going forward.
Certainly things change as dating evolves into a relationship, but let’s take the first date as our benchmark for good behavior, especially on the divorced dad’s side of the dinner table.
She has some real concerns about how the relationship is going and wanted to hear from my perspective the true dynamics of what she's experiencing.
Let me first say that I'm not a relationship expert. I’m nothing more than a dad who has walked an interesting path on my way to raising two wonderful kids.